Some people call me The Process Girl. It’s a name I didn’t give myself, but I wear it with pride. Why? Because I believe in the journey, in taking things step by step, and in trusting the process even when nothing seems to be working out. Growth and success? They don’t just happen overnight. They are built—one decision, one action, one lesson at a time.
We live in a world obsessed with instant gratification. People want to see results immediately—whether it’s in their careers, relationships or personal development. The internet is flooded with promises of overnight success, get-rich-quick schemes and instant transformations. But let’s be real—anything truly worthwhile takes time. The most successful people in any field will tell you that their achievements weren’t sudden; they were the result of years of dedication, learning and persistence.
Think about some of the most incredible things in life. A towering tree that has stood for a century didn’t get there in a week. A well-built house isn’t constructed in a day. A masterpiece painting isn’t created in a single brushstroke. True success—whether in business, personal growth or relationships—follows the same principle. It’s all about The Process.
It`s not always easy…
But here’s the tricky part: The process isn’t always easy. It’s slow, sometimes painfully so. It’s full of moments that make you want to quit, times when you wonder if anything you’re doing is even making a difference. It’s those times when self-doubt creeps in and you start comparing your journey to someone else’s highlight reel. But let me tell you something important—just because you don’t see progress doesn’t mean it’s not happening. Growth is often invisible before it becomes undeniable.
I’ve learned to embrace The Process not just as a necessary path to success but as a way of life. And in this post, I want to take you through what that means—why it’s so important, how it transforms not just what you achieve but who you become and why the best things in life are always worth the wait.
So, if you’ve ever felt stuck, frustrated or impatient with your journey, this one’s for you. Let’s talk about why trusting the process is the most powerful mindset shift you can make.
The Obsession With Instant Results
We live in a culture that glorifies speed. Fast food, same-day delivery, viral fame—everything is designed to bring us results now. The idea of slow, steady progress feels outdated. But let’s be honest, have you ever tried to rush something and ended up with a mess?
I remember baking a cake once and being too impatient to wait for it to fully rise. I kept opening the oven, hoping it would be ready sooner. What happened? It collapsed in the middle, undercooked and disappointing. That’s what happens when we try to rush life’s process—we end up with half-baked results.
The Bible reminds us in Ecclesiastes 3:1, “To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven.” Growth has its timing. You cannot microwave purpose, character or deep, lasting success.
Lessons from the Bamboo Tree
A powerful example of patience in growth is the Chinese bamboo tree. When you plant a bamboo seed, nothing seems to happen for the first five years. You water it, nurture it, but there’s no visible progress. Then suddenly, in the fifth year, it grows up to 90 feet in just six weeks! But here’s the truth—it wasn’t growing all at once; it was developing an extensive root system beneath the surface.
That’s how real success works. You might not see growth right away, but beneath the surface, transformation is happening.
James Clear, in Atomic Habits, talks about the “plateau of latent potential.” He explains how progress often feels slow until you reach a breakthrough moment. He compares it to an ice cube sitting in a cold room. If the temperature is at 3.3°C, 2.7°C, 2.2°C, nothing changes. But at 0°C, the ice begins to melt. That doesn’t mean the earlier temperature increases were wasted; they were building up to that transformation.
Biblical Principles on Waiting and Growth
The Bible is full of examples of people who had to wait for their process to unfold. Joseph was sold into slavery and imprisoned before he became the second most powerful man in Egypt. David was anointed king as a teenager but spent years tending sheep and running from Saul before he actually took the throne. Even Jesus spent 30 years preparing for a ministry that lasted only three.
Isaiah 40:31 encourages us: “But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.”
Why We Must Embrace the Process
Personal growth, career success and meaningful relationships all require time. When we rush, we compromise the quality of what we’re building. Whether it’s a relationship, a business or your own personal development, slow progress is still progress.
It reminds me of a quote by Warren Buffett: “No matter how great the talent or efforts, some things just take time. You can’t produce a baby in one month by getting nine women pregnant.” Growth follows its timeline.
Instead of focusing on speed, let’s focus on sustainability. When you build something step by step, it lasts. Ask yourself:
- Are you willing to put in the work even if you don’t see immediate results?
- Can you trust the process, even when progress is slow?
- Are you focusing on long-term success rather than temporary wins?
Patience isn’t just waiting; it’s how you wait. It’s choosing to keep watering your seed even when you don’t see growth. It’s developing discipline, character and resilience along the way.
What It Means to Embrace the Process
Embracing The Process isn’t just about patience—it’s about intentional action. It means:
Showing up, even when no one is clapping for you.
Doing the work, even when results seem invisible.
Trusting that every small step is shaping you for something greater.
Too often, we get discouraged because we can’t see the progress happening in real time. But think about a sculptor working on a masterpiece. Each strike of the chisel might seem insignificant, but over time, those tiny actions shape something extraordinary. That’s what embracing the process looks like.
Let’s break it down into key areas where The Process makes all the difference.
1. Career Growth: The Long Road to Mastery
I’ve had moments where I`ve felt stuck in my career, questioning whether am making any real progress. But when I look back, I see how every challenge refined me. Every failure taught me something. Every difficult project, every late night, every moment of doubt—it was all part of the process.
Success stories often leave out the struggles. You see someone thriving in their career, but you don’t see the sleepless nights, the rejections, the uncertainty they battled along the way. If you’re in that stage where nothing seems to be moving, take heart. You’re not failing; you’re becoming.
Malcolm Gladwell, in Outliers, introduced the 10,000-hour rule—the idea that mastery comes from sustained effort over time. The greatest athletes, musicians and professionals didn’t wake up successful. They put in the hours, the practice, the work.
The Bible echoes this principle in Proverbs 14:23: “All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.” Your labor is not in vain.
The Invisible Years of Preparation
One of my favorite stories is about Steve Jobs. Before Apple became a household name, he spent years learning calligraphy, studying design and working on computers in his garage. None of those things seemed connected at the time, but later, they became the foundation for Apple’s revolutionary products. Imagine if he had given up because he didn’t see immediate success.
If you feel stuck in your career, remember: your process is preparing you for something greater. Keep learning. Keep growing. Your breakthrough will come.
2. Relationships: Built Over Time, Not in a Day
We’ve all seen whirlwind romances that fizzle out as fast as they started. That’s because deep connections take time. Real friendships, strong marriages, and meaningful relationships aren’t built on grand gestures alone; they are built in the small, everyday moments—the hard conversations, the silent support, the ability to grow together rather than apart.
Think of the strongest relationships in your life. Were they instant? Or did they grow through shared experiences, trust and consistency? Process.
Love is Patient
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 tells us that “Love is patient, love is kind… it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” Love and strong relationships are cultivated over time, not overnight. If we rush them, we miss the depth that makes them last.
I have a friend I’ve known for over a decade. We didn’t start off as best friends. In fact, there were misunderstandings and times we drifted apart. But through life’s ups and downs, we consistently showed up for each other. That’s what built the trust, not a single moment but years of shared experiences.
Whether it’s friendships, romantic relationships or professional connections, the strongest bonds are forged in the fire of time, consistency and effort.
No one becomes their best self in isolation. The right friendships and relationships shape us, hold us accountable and remind us who we are. That’s why choosing the right people is part of The Process. I’ve explored this more in my post on relationships—check it out here: Love and Waiting.
3. Personal Development: Becoming Who You’re Meant to Be
No one wakes up one day as the best version of themselves. Growth happens in daily choices:
- Reading that book instead of scrolling mindlessly on social media.
- Having that tough conversation instead of avoiding conflict.
- Choosing discipline over comfort.
- Learning from failures instead of letting them define you.
The Biblical Model of Growth
Romans 5:3-4 reminds us: “Suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.”
Growth isn’t just about gaining skills; it’s about developing the character to sustain your success.
James Clear, in Atomic Habits, highlights the power of small, consistent actions. He explains that if you improve by just 1% every day, over time, that compounding effect will lead to transformation. It’s not about massive leaps; it’s about steady steps.
There’s a story about a man who wanted to get fit but struggled with motivation. Instead of forcing himself into an intense workout routine, he started with a commitment to go to the gym for just five minutes every day. That’s it—five minutes. Over time, he stayed longer, built consistency and eventually transformed his health.
The same principle applies to life. Small, consistent actions lead to big transformations.
Growth often requires us to step into spaces we once avoided. For me, that meant learning to share my voice and my work, even when fear screamed at me to stay hidden. If you’ve ever felt scared to be seen, to put yourself out there, you’re not alone. I wrote more about it here: Fear of Being Seen.
Don’t Rush What’s Meant to Grow
Embracing The Process isn’t just about waiting—it’s about who you become while you wait.
So, whether you’re working toward career success, meaningful relationships or personal growth, remember: the process is shaping you, refining you and preparing you for the breakthrough ahead.
Stay patient. Stay consistent. Keep showing up.
Your time is coming.
When The Process Feels Too Slow
There are days when you’ll question everything. You’ll wonder if all your efforts are in vain. But let me remind you—growth isn’t always visible.
Think about the bamboo. It spends years growing underground before it ever shoots up. During that time, its roots are spreading deep, creating a strong foundation. Then suddenly, when the time is right, it grows at an insane speed! That’s how life works. Just because you don’t see progress doesn’t mean it’s not happening.
The Bible speaks to this in Galatians 6:9: “Let us not grow weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” The key phrase? At the proper time. God’s timing is perfect, even when it doesn’t align with our impatience.
Sometimes, it’s not just impatience that makes the process feel slow—it’s the voice inside whispering, ‘You don’t belong here.’ I’ve wrestled with impostor syndrome, doubting whether I was good enough or if I was just faking my way through. But I’ve learned that competence grows with experience, not before it. If you’ve ever felt like an impostor, I wrote something that might help: Grow in Confidence.
Competence grows with experience
The Hidden Growth Season
Have you ever looked back at a season of your life and realized that what felt like delay was actually preparation? Maybe that job rejection pushed you toward a better opportunity. Maybe that heartbreak redirected you toward self-growth. Maybe those months (or years) of struggle were building resilience in you.
In The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy, he explains that success is like a slow-burning fire—it doesn’t look impressive at first, but over time, the small, consistent efforts you put in will compound into something extraordinary. The key is to keep going even when the results aren’t visible yet.
Take Michael Phelps, the most decorated Olympian in history. People see the gold medals, but what they don’t see are the years of waking up at 4 AM, the six-hour training sessions, the relentless discipline. He didn’t win because he was lucky; he won because he embraced The Process when no one was watching.
So, if you feel like your journey is moving too slowly, remind yourself: roots grow before fruits show.
Roots grow before fruits show.
Practical Steps to Trust The Process
Knowing that patience is key is one thing. Living it out is another. So, how do you actually trust The Process when doubt creeps in?
1. Define Your Vision: Where Do You Want to Go?
Clarity is power. If you don’t know what you’re working toward, it’s easy to get discouraged. Write down your goals, and make them as specific as possible.
- Instead of saying, “I want to be successful,” define what success means to you.
- Instead of “I want to grow spiritually,” set clear spiritual disciplines, like daily devotionals or weekly Bible study.
- Instead of “I want to be healthy,” commit to a workout routine, meal plan, or sleep schedule.
Habakkuk 2:2 says, “Write the vision and make it plain.” When you see your vision clearly, you’re more likely to stay committed to The Process of achieving it.
2. Break It Down: Make Big Goals Bite-Sized
Huge dreams can feel overwhelming, which is why so many people give up before they even start. Instead of focusing on the end result, break your goal into manageable steps.
- Want to write a book? Start with a single page per day.
- Want to start a business? Begin with research and small test runs.
- Want to improve your fitness? Commit to a 10-minute daily workout.
James Clear, in Atomic Habits, highlights that small, repeated actions lead to remarkable results over time. “Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you want to become.” One small step at a time.
In Atomic Habits, James Clear breaks down the science of lasting change, showing that success isn’t about massive overhauls but about small, consistent actions. He explains that habits compound over time—just like investing money, the little choices we make daily determine our long-term outcomes.
This aligns perfectly with The Process. Many people chase quick results, but Clear emphasizes that real transformation happens when we commit to the invisible work—showing up, even when progress isn’t obvious. He introduces the 1% Rule, proving that tiny improvements lead to massive growth over time.
Clear also debunks the myth of motivation, arguing that we don’t rise to the level of our goals but fall to the level of our systems. This means success is built through intentional routines, not just big dreams. Whether in careers, relationships or personal development, embracing the process of daily progress is what leads to lasting change.
If you’ve ever felt stuck or impatient with slow growth, Atomic Habits is a reminder that small steps matter. Keep watering the seed—you may not see results today, but one day, your efforts will bloom. 🌱
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3. Stay Consistent: Even When You Don’t See Results
Consistency beats intensity every time. Many people start strong but fizzle out because they don’t see immediate progress. The truth? Small, daily efforts compound into massive success over time.
Ecclesiastes 11:6 reminds us: “Sow your seed in the morning, and at evening let your hands not be idle, for you do not know which will succeed, whether this or that.” Keep planting, even when you don’t see the harvest yet.
There’s an old story about two bricklayers. When asked what they were doing, one said, “I’m just laying bricks.” The other smiled and said, “I’m building a cathedral.” Both were doing the same work, but one saw the bigger picture.
Your daily efforts might feel like laying bricks, but remember: you’re building something greater than you can see right now.
4. Learn From Setbacks: Failure is Part of the Process
Failure isn’t the opposite of success; it’s part of it. Every great achiever has faced setbacks. The difference? They learned from them instead of letting them define them.
- Thomas Edison failed over 1,000 times before inventing the lightbulb.
- Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper for “lacking creativity.”
- Oprah was told she was “unfit for television.”
If they had given up, the world would have missed out on their greatness. Proverbs 24:16 says, “Though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again.” The fall isn’t the end—the rising is what matters.
5. Celebrate Progress: Even Small Wins Matter
One mistake people make? Only celebrating the big milestones. But waiting for the big win can make the journey feel discouraging. Instead, celebrate the small victories.
- Wrote 500 words today? That’s progress.
- Landed a small gig? That’s a step forward.
- Had a tough conversation that helped you grow? That’s a win.
Philippians 1:6 reminds us: “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion.” Every step forward matters.
6. Surround Yourself With Process-Driven People
Mindset is contagious. If you’re constantly around people who want shortcuts, you’ll be tempted to rush things too. But when you surround yourself with people who understand that success takes time, you’ll be encouraged to stay on track.
Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Be around those who sharpen you, not dull your vision.
Trust the Timing of Your Life
If you’re in a season where The Process feels too slow, I want you to remember this:
- God’s timing is perfect. Delay isn’t denial.
- Your growth is happening, even if you can’t see it yet.
- Your future self will thank you for the consistency you show today.
Every great story, every major success, every strong foundation—was built over time. Keep showing up. Keep trusting The Process. Your time is coming.
You Are Becoming
If there’s one thing I want you to take away from this, it’s this: You are in the process of becoming everything you’re meant to be. It might not look like it right now, but every step, every lesson, every struggle is shaping you.
David didn’t become king overnight. He was anointed as a young shepherd but spent years facing battles, rejection and hardship before stepping into his destiny. Joseph had dreams of greatness but was sold into slavery, imprisoned and tested before he rose to power. Even Jesus spent 30 years in preparation for a 3-year ministry that changed the world.
The process is never wasted. The skills you’re developing, the resilience you’re building, the faith you’re strengthening—it’s all working together for your good (Romans 8:28).
And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28
So don’t rush the process. Embrace it. Trust that God knows the exact timeline for your life, and He makes everything beautiful in its time (Ecclesiastes 3:11).
And if you ever need a reminder, just know The Process Girl is cheering for you. Keep going. You are becoming.
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