I wrote this letter to my future husband in March of 2024.🫣
Dear Future Husband
As I sit down to write this letter, I can’t help but feel a rush of emotions.☺️ It’s as if I’m peering into the future, imagining the life we will build together. So, here it goes—a letter to you, my partner, my friend, my confidant and my love.
My heart is filled with excitement and anticipation for the day we finally meet. Although I may not know your name or what you look like, I feel a deep connection to you already, knowing that somewhere out there, you are waiting for me just as eagerly as I am waiting for you. 🤗
I hope and pray that you are submitted to Christ. That you fear and rever God. I hope your values are shaped by the word of God. Because only then will you know how to love me and I will be safe to submit to you.
I’ve dreamt of you for as long as I can remember, envisioning a love so deep it transcends time and space. I can’t wait to meet you, to lock eyes and know that you are the one I’ve been waiting for.
But more than that, I’m excited about the little moments we’ll share—the stolen glances across a crowded room, the whispered secrets in the dead of night and the laughter that echoes through our home, that laugher the causes our bellies to ache.
I’ve got a laundry list 📃 of things I’m looking forward to doing with you, from traveling to far-off places to binge-watching our favorite TV shows on lazy weekends. And let’s not forget about the endless debates we’ll have about stupid small things. 😁
But let’s get real for a moment. Marriage isn’t all rainbows and butterflies. It’s messy and complicated, filled with highs and lows that test our commitment to each other. And that’s okay. Because I promise to stand by your side through it all, to weather the storms and celebrate the victories, knowing that together, we are stronger than anything life throws our way.
Communication and trust are the cornerstones of any successful relationship and I promise to always listen to you with an open heart and mind. I promise to always be real with you, even when it’s tough. Let’s communicate openly and honestly, because that’s the only way we’ll keep this thing going strong. Let us create a safe space where we can share our hopes, fears and dreams without judgment or reservation.
Beyond the vows and the white dress, there are some things I want to maintain beyond marriage—my independence, my dreams and my sense of self. I want you to know that while I am committed to building a life with you, I am also committed to nurturing my own passions and ambitions. I hope you’ll join me on this journey, supporting and encouraging me every step of the way. I know that with you by my side, I will become a better version of myself each and every day.
I’d like to maintain my independence even in my submission to you. I’ll submit under your authority as the head of the family, I’ll look up to you for guidance, support, ideas and so much more. I’ll want you to lead the household and lead me at home. I want you to lead me even spiritually, to be the prophet and the priest of the house. When my prayer life is growing weary, I hope you’ll be there to help me reignite the flame. 🔥
But mistake not this for being weak. I was born in an era where we have the freedom of choice and I choose to take advantage of this privilege. I want to do what fulfills me, enriches me, always gives me a chance to grow and keeps me creatively challenged enough to feel the sense of accomplishment frequently. I believe I don’t have to sacrifice my happiness to accomplish other people’s whims. And neither should you.
I believe there is no one way to live and choose to embrace freedom. The freedom to choose who I want, how I want it and when I want to start.
And when it comes to our future together, the possibilities are endless. I envision lazy Sunday mornings spent curled up in bed, exploring new cities hand in hand and building a home filled with love and laughter. But more than anything, I look forward to the moments we’ll share beyond marriage—the inside jokes, the late-night conversations and the quiet moments of connection that remind us why we fell in love in the first place.
And with all this, I’d like to ask a few things of you…
- I want the romance – the flowers and chocolates, the dinning out, the picnics. Most importantly, I hope you give a good warm hug 🤗. I won’t mind holding hands in town or a kiss on the forehead in public (that’s a respectable kind of pda, isn’t it? 🤗)
- I want us to go to church hand in hand, with matching outfits (we must have a personal tailor 😁) and to seat in the pews together.
- I want us to make therapy a norm in our house.
- I pray that you detest alcohol as much as I do. I can’t stand the smell and the behaviors that come with.
- I will also not tolerate physical abuse. You lay a hand of me and that will be the end of us, I can promise you that.
- If we ever get into a disagreement, can we please solve it like grown-ups? Shouting and screaming at each other is something I pray we never do.
- And incase you need to apologize to me, am sure you know what to bring. But just incase you need a reminder, a packet of delamere youghurt (the one with fruit pieces in them😋), a bar of Cadbury milk chocolate and a packet of oreo bisquits.
But, just incase the apology needs some oof, 😁 just add onto it my favorite ground nuts and a packet of dried dates.
Please, when we finally meet, tell me what would make an apology to you a smooth sailing for me. 😉
- I hope and pray that your heart is big enough to consider adoption. (Am sure we’ll talk about this, few dates in when we finally meet)
But above all else, I want you to know how deeply I love you,❤️ even before we have met. My love for you knows no bounds and I cannot wait to embark on this incredible journey together.
So, here’s to us🥂 my dear future husband. I`m excited to meet you and embark on this incredible journey together. Until then, know that you are always in my heart and in my prayers.
